How To Talk So Kids Will Listen, Part Four

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen (Part Four): Alternatives to Punishment (Part B)

When a parent has tried the alternative to punishment described in our last segment, it means the problem is more complex than it originally appeared. In such cases, a more complex approach is required.

How to Problem-Solve

1. Talk about the child’s feelings and needs
2. talk about the parent’s feelings and needs
3. Brainstorm together to find mutually agreeable solution
4. Write down all the ideas without evaluating
5. Decide which suggestions you like and which you plan to follow through on

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